I’m sure many of you are familiar with the issue of making excuses for everything. I don’t just mean excusing your unfinished chores by saying “I have ADHD”, I mean excuses and fabrications in general - at work, you might say you’re nearly finished with a project, but really you’re halfway done at best, at home you might say you couldn’t start the dishwasher because of how angry your pregnant wife was at you for choosing the wrong program on the washing machine, so you were scared to start the dishwasher - fully ignoring the fact that you were supposed to start the dishwasher BEFORE even being confronted about the washing machine. The last one is a stupid example, but it happened an hour ago and it’s a pattern I hate about myself.

If you’ve had a similar issue and identified it, what has helped you improve yourself? I may never be perfect to the point I’ll get everything done that I need to, but I’d like to at least stop making stupid excuses that just bring up fights that could’ve been avoided.

  • tjsauce@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    Try, “I have no excuse,” and only explain when prompted. You may desire to be heard, but you can explain yourself after the apologies have concluded.