Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?
you may not need a model. But many people, men or women, do need one. It's not a men things. Many women take models. And many problem of sex discrepancy in science for example, that is why there isn't more women in science, is supposed to be due to the lack of models.
So maybe you don't need a model, or maybe you had a model without realising it. But not everyone is like you.
I mean, "obsessing about maleness" when women magazines are what they are is quite ironic really.