I have rarely gone to get fast food in the last few years, a lot of the reason because of the cost. That, and quality has gone down a lot even with price increases.

The times I have gone, were because I was short on time. I miss the days I could overlook the poor quality due to the cost.

Yeah, like sticky spoons! This one task has another task stuck to it and it’s gross and annoying and takes another spoon to deal with. These are the bane of my existence.

Sweeping or vacuuming the floor is one. I have to clear off the floor before actually sweeping. Sometimes there’s a bag of laundry in the way so I need to either move it or put it away.

Laundry is another one. I need a place to be able to fold stuff. So the bed or a table needs to be cleaned off. If the bed sheets aren’t clean, got to deal with that. I usually get to the table. Where I first need to clear it off, which usually is covered in my daughter’s and partner’s stuff. Then I need to clean it.

Same thing with cleaning the kitchen counters. I have to move everything off first. Sometimes that is dirty dishes. What I try to do to mitigate that is to unload the dishwasher and dish drainer every morning. Then as I make new dirty dishes, I load them in the dishwasher or hand wash them. That way there isn’t a big pile. Unfortunately my partner has been taking care of the kitchen and everything is a mess. I can’t get to it because I am dealing with household work only I can do. (She is more disabled than me…) But sometimes I have to clean the kitchen for her because she gets sick or something and it is so much harder because she doesn’t have a system and it is chaos and dirty dishes everywhere. Some pretty old.

I will say one thing that helps me is I have bins for my partner’s and daughter’s wayward stuff. If they left something out and it’s in my way, I put it in their bin. My partner appreciates it. My daughter takes some convincing to put the stuff away. It makes it so much easier for me to get my tasks done. Before I would either have to address each and every thing to them before I can get my own thing done.

One thing I decided wasn’t worth my time and extra energy: cast iron, not the ceramic coated kind. No way I’m taking take of that. Uncoated stainless steel for life!

In the US, it depends on which state and certain conditions. Only two states, Maine and Vermont, will allow felons to vote, even while incarcerated. The link below has a good summary.

https://www.nep.uscourts.gov/faq/general/31

Voting is one (important) part of what you need to do if you’re an American.

Do what you can outside of elections as well, like writing to your representatives, getting involved in local politics (it matters!), and attending protests/marches.

Re-read your title with “dongle” as a euphemism for a body part.

It takes some practice to perfect your toilet netipot technique.

Oh yes, I remember when Reddit came out with multireddits. Loved that, and I miss it.

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“All” here vs other social media is much better

It’s more likely that arguments are civil. There are still quite a few venomous arguments but I’ve noticed that it it proportionally less.

On Reddit or Facebook, if you didn’t like a group you left and made your own. If you didn’t like the admins, tough shit. Here, if you don’t like the admins, you can use a different instance.

Likes and dislikes are separate, and are in some cases viewable who submit them. I feel like this keeps people a little more honest.

I like the modlog and transparency. It’s so much easier that when someone complains about unfair mod action, to see if they are in the right or exaggerating.

There is an “end” to Lemmy. There isn’t just infinite content to scroll through.

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Smaller user base means that niches that Reddit filled just aren’t here.

There is an “end” to Lemmy. There isn’t just infinite content to scroll through.

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The types of common negative personalities here are different from that of Reddit. Reddit has more misogyny, classism, antinatalists, and obnoxious atheists. (As opposed to the chill atheists.) Lemmy has quite a few people that are pretty shitty to those that are disabled or cannot get out of some situations. If you cannot work towards the greater good without any rest, can’t escape a bad situation, or can’t just extend yourself further, you are trash. There are also more fringe beliefs here. I do like it because of the different perspectives, even if I very strongly disagree. (It makes me think!) Unfortunately we still have the dumbass arguments about generations but you can’t have it all.

a note for some of us here. (The specifics are US-centric, but the overarching concept can apply outside of the US.)

Things like vandalism, breaking and entering, and theft are illegal. I would advise folks not to do anything like that to their neighbors who are unlikely to be rich and are just trying to get by honestly for the most part.

Some things that are good are also illegal, however. Some places, may be illegal to garden on your own land. Did your neighbor’s water get shut off, and you want to share some of yours? You can get fined for that. Do you not have much (and therefore truly do not have space in your home to allow someone to stay), but want to allow someone to sleep in their car on your property? Depending on where you are, also possibly illegal.

That’s a great point. I know I need a sleep study, I just have to get to it… Eventually.

It’s the same way for me as getting a new pair of glasses, improving my diet, or using a planner. It doesn’t make the ADHD go away, but it makes it easier to manage.

I like live rosin sativa edibles. I would take like 5mg or even less depending on your sensitivity.

I would also sometimes take live rosin sativa edibles mixed with a little CBD. Also 5mg or less. Supposedly the CBD “evens out” the effect a little bit.

I live in a state where we don’t have legal weed (in USA), so I would get the federally legal stuff. Very expensive to get something with proper contaminant testing. I would get Hometown Hero brand if I needed to get federally legal stuff. There are more brands that are good too, but it’s been a while since I’ve purchased those.

Visiting a legal state, I found was these things called “potdots.” They are basically M&M’s 1mg of THC each. Start with around 2 or 3. I really liked how easy it was to take very small doses.

Some older folks do that. They print them out to file away or draft their responses (that they then later type and send back). I don’t think it’s as common as it used to be, though.

When I was getting my diagnosis my doc asked me “did you do the assessment I sent you?”

Uh… I forgot and you first asked me when I didn’t have a way to take a note. Sorry. :(

I have to prepare a little note card with bullet points on what I want to say/accomplish on my call. Bonus because I can also take any notes on the call if needed. It’s helped me a lot, because a lot of my anxiety about calling comes from forgetting why I was calling in the first place.

I KNEW IT

I’m a bit new to this. What is the plywood for?

Hopefully this isn’t unwanted advice, but I have also cut out a lot of meat from my diet and I started getting weird side effects. (Lost feeling in my hands and feet, got dizzy a lot, felt extra stupid.)

After seeing a doctor, I take vitamin B and D supplements and it helped a lot. If you can’t see a doctor, you might consider trying some vitamin B and seeing if that helps. Apparently lots of vegetarians and vegans take it too.

I’m not sure, but I know that when a family member had to do a low FODMAP diet, they couldn’t eat things with onions in them. But onion infused oil was fine because the sugars in the onion were water soluble, but not fat soluble so the oil didn’t contain the component they were avoiding. https://www.monashfodmap.com/blog/all-about-onion-garlic-and-infused-oils-on-the-low-fodmap-diet/

Not sure it’s related but it’s the first thing I thought of.

How fulfilled is your life without a romantic partner? Do you know what you want?

The worst partners I had were the ones that had nothing going on. No goals, no hobbies, nothing. They expected me to be their world.

The better relationships I had were with people that knew what they wanted from life. They didn’t need me to complete them, but I was definitely a welcome addition.

I do not believe I am conventionally attractive, but there are people that like me. For every fella that only dates skinny blondes, there’s another that wouldn’t give them a second look. Additionally, if someone really likes you for you, you might just get more physically attractive to them even if you’re not their type. (It has happened to me!)

As for money, yes some people will only look at you if you have a lot of money. At least they filter themselves out if you don’t have it. You don’t have to be perfect with money, but as long as you are reasonable enough with money, you should be fine.

Some low self-esteem is workable, but if you are always ragging on yourself it gets grating. I was with this guy and he kept telling me how ugly he was. I would always reassure him. It was exhausting after a while. I think everyone needs validation every now and again, but constantly?! Ahhh!

If you get this stuff down, at least then you will have better chances with women. (Or whatever gender you prefer.) If your only goal is to get a girlfriend, then that is not so great. If it’s only one of your goals or something you’re passively open to, then you are in a much better position. Relationship opportunities, romantic or not, seem to crop up when you’re doing something else you enjoy.

With your back to the water, barbecue. Messy as hell. But that doesn’t matter cause you’re in the shower.