I work in a very large tech company. I curse like a fucking sailor around some people and use my church voice around others. Expletives lose their punch when used too often.

I wouldn’t apologize or bring it up further. The time for an apology about language spoken in the heat of the moment is as soon after as possible.

The best apology is a change in behavior.

Good luck navigating this, you can see how contentious a topic it is by the comments in this thread. But it boils down to know your audience, and believe people when they tell you they have a problem.

Of course there’s nuance. I was just sharing what I’ve had to learn is all. I hope your relationship with your mom is good or better than it was in the past. If that’s what you want or if that works for y’all.

Likely longer as the “stop the steal” nonsense lawsuits start rolling through

Hurt people hurt people. Past trauma informs how we interact sure, but it doesn’t excuse perpetuating that cycle upon others. A lover isn’t required to be a therapist or a parent.

You’ll find a way through all of this. If you can afford it, a therapist may help.

I went no contact with my narcissist mom. I have ADHD. The final straw was when my grandma (her mom) was dying of bone cancer, and my mom had just got her second divorce. Instead of staying with her mom and being palliative care, and saving money for both of them. She moved to a very expensive apartment near me. When I already had a move planned. I told her I was moving and that she should stay at my grandma’s and help her out. For 4 months she begged me not to move to my dream job and stay with her because she was so lonely in her new town. Like what the fuck. You just left your mother, in her dying months. Where your sister and your brothers and their family live in this massive support network. To a city where your child has told you they’re leaving? What the fuck?

I sold everything I owned, moved in with my gramma, called the job and asked if they’d hold the position for a few months while I get care setup with my aunts and uncles. Mimi died 5 weeks later. My mother didn’t show up to the funeral. I never talked to her again.

I think about my mom every few days. But I’ll never speak to her again. People have no meaning to her.

Going no contact was the best decision I ever made.

I have no idea what will work for you. But I’ve grown and become a better person without having to expend so much energy on my mom. You might find the same benefit in your situation.

You have value, you matter. You must have qualities another partner would be interested in. Or else your ex never would have tried to be with you in the first place. Beware though as soon as you’re showing competence without her she’ll lovebomb the shit out of you.

Good luck.

Considering it’s tailscale, one may want to have the service fail though as tailscale is sometimes not used for convenience but security concerns instead.

Delay the start of your containers with the tailscale dependency. Are you using required or depends_on in your docker-compose.yml

https://hatchjs.com/docker-compose-conditionally-start-service/

If you’re using kubernetes you can make the requirements at the pod level

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/69423932/container-initialization-order-in-pod-on-k8s

Edit: If using docker-compose.yml you can set a condition on a healthcheck

You can also specify a condition that must be met before the service is started. For example, the following configuration will start the web service only if the db service is healthy:

version: ‘3.7’
services:
web:
image: nginx
depends_on:
– db
condition: service_healthy

The service_healthy condition checks the health of the db service using the docker-compose ps command. If the db service is healthy, the web service will be started.

If it fails try pet-g

Proxmox is starting to look really promising

When Hitler would speak in beer halls he’d emphasize national SOCIALIST WORKERS party. When he spoke to the press or the wealthy social clubs the emphasis was on NATIONALIST. Hitler, Trump, Mussolini, LePen, Dutarte all of them just say whatever will get them into power. Often downplaying any of the negatives their policies could cause for the audience.

So yes, bankers, industrialists, and the idle rich supported Hitler, but also the common German trades person, factory worker, and low level bureaucrat. The common German did as much to elect Hitler as the wealthy did.

Fascists gonna fascist.

The same strata of people that always vote for fascists. It’s a long tradition of conservatives consolidating power and wealth at the top because they think they can get a piece of it.

Don’t quit, slowdown, make them fire you, collect unemployment and get a better job

If you think you might be interested in network security or networking and don’t have money try the free courses here.

https://academy.hackthebox.com/catalogue

There are paid and free courses there, choose the free ones. If it’s paid, in any web browser search

how to <title of the course>

Good luck.

In my humble opinion the point of self hosting an LLM is so that the data doesn’t leave your LAN.

Not everywhere in America

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/university-north-texas-corpses-dissected-unclaimed-bodies-rcna170478

It’s as complex as you make it, is linux native, is scriptable, doesn’t use YAML, is native to the OS, and is free as in beer. Just like SNMP. however they’ll also get logs at a central server they can drill into if needed.

Which I believe fulfills the requirements of OPs post.

Sidenote, self-hosting is absolutely overkill just as a theory and process. I often read responses to suggestions as this or that is overkill, or complicated, or non-trivial effort.

The self hosting community is a broad spectrum of users , from those with home labs on an old dying laptop to those with a full rack setup. People have different needs and interests. Some are learning infra and devops for work or to get into a new job. Some are privacy minded. Some are trying to get the most bang for their buck. Some just want to pay for a cloud hosted solution. Some just want an automated home. Some run a home business.

Edit: to the point of your valid and helpful SNMP post, most syslog servers also will ingest and report on SNMP traffic as well. The container I linked does exactly that. If they find they want to automate processes in the future they can also trigger on the syslog stream as well. But that complexity is only there if they want it. Otherwise it’s just a stream they can parse and trigger an alert, just like SNMP. So OP could have an extensible solution if they want to expand. Also Grafana/Prometheus will take in syslog natively with a couple standard YAML configs if they choose that they want to look at that solution again in the future.

/Rant

Edit: found better resources

https://linuxhandbook.com/syslog-guide/

https://github.com/linuxserver/docker-syslog-ng

That should be a good place to start. Syslog will do what you want.

Price in dollars is 9,820.25 and 8,943.26 in euros for reference.

Agreed this is essentially a style guide.