I’d say that leaving your request pending forever is definitely the wrong way They are trying to hide their rejections

But the great thing about federated instances is that even if you are wronged, you have options You’re never between a rock and a hard place

What I plan to do is just create accounts in the server I’m interested in, and link between accounts so people know I’m the same person. It even works as a backup

There will be instances that will delete your account if you have an account at other instances, however my life experience is that I’m better without the kind of people who does that, so their self-revelation as such an agent is also a plus