So sorry for getting back so late, I didn’t get a notification for your reply for some reason.
Breaks my heart to hear you’re struggling so hard. I’m glad you’re doing your best, its the most anyone can ask of you. I hope that whatever circumstances can shift in your favour, do so.
Its both, except in the case of this post where the person is clearly being snarky and trying to put this woman down.
Most mansplaining is a man trying to be helpful. The issue arises in that they try to be helpful in situations where, if it was another man, they wouldn’t try to be helpful, because they’d assume the man already knew the thing.
An obviously stretched out example, but, if someone was dreadfully thirsty and I, out of the absolute kindness of my heart, tried to offer them advice like “Gosh, that sounds awful. I’m so sorry. Have you tried drinking water? I’ve been thirsty before and water always fixes me right up”, I’m sure we’d all agree this is misplaced advice and probably reflects on my perception (or presumptions) of their intelligence.