RiverGhost

A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play.

Can confirm. This is my entire life.

I’m not stating whether he considered it or not, but Brian May being good at one thing (physics) doesn’t mean he’s good at other things.

I agree, but I think I understand why I do it.

TL:DR Maladaptive behavior that is however ultimately harmless since I don’t bother people.

I was a “gifted child”; was always like 2 school years ahead, started uni at 15 and every single person I met would praise me for being the youngest. I was immature so it got to my head. I also have always looked much younger than I am, which also invites comments. Finally, I also have AuDHD and I’m constantly anxious about not acting my age and being too immature. So I try to look at other people’s ages to guide me in how I’m supposed to behave.

All of this is maladaptive and I’ve gotten a lot better with time, and I’m still working on it, but I’m not particularly bothered about the actual fact of having an interest in people’s ages. I make sure I don’t ask them about it or bother them about it, but many just offer this information on their own.

It’s probably normal to forget. I am probably the odd one in that I’m always very aware of my age and I’m almost 40. I’m also acutely aware of the ages of people around me, and (very mildly) uncomfortable if I don’t know someone’s age.

We ordered a Librem 5 in 2017 and still nothing.

We even requested for a refund in 2022; still no answer. No communication at all. Don’t even know what to do about it in terms of legal processes, it was certainly not an insignificant amount of money for us.

I do read extremely fast in my native language (Spanish). Feels like entire sentences go straight into concepts and my brain builds a whole world based on what I’m reading.

However I started reading in a verbalized way with my second and third languages (English and Swedish) because I was completely useless at pronunciation, while reading at a high level. So I had to learn the sounds and they started invading my reading, which I sort of resent.

But the verbalization is still very mild; faint, monotone, non-enunciated.

Some people talked about poetry and I hadn’t considered that my absolute lack of poetry-sense could be related. People have told me about the metrics and whatnot and it really doesn’t click. I have to sort of analyze a poem and explain it to myself in prose, and I imagine that defeats the purpose of poetry?

I’ve literally never done this. Sounds like hell.

Logseq has worked best for me and my ADHD so far.

Now that I think about it, I had to tweak some settings for HZD according to some guide, but I don’t remember exactly what I did. After that, it worked quite well. Perhaps it wasn’t 60 fps but 40? For me that was good enough.

It could still depend on standards. For example people seem to say Rimworld is great on the Deck but I absolutely disagree.

Tried Hollow Knight for the first time on the Deck, it works so well!

I’m not even specially good at gaming but I thought Hornet (a Hollow Knight boss) was quite enjoyable and not that hard and I wonder if it has to do with the Deck controls, since everyone has mentioned how difficult that one is (I did find all other bosses very difficult so this is not a boast).

Edit to mention that Horizon: Zero Dawn is another one that I only tried with the Deck and it also works really well, though this one consumes a lot more battery compared to HK.

I get it, I find shopping extremely overwhelming, I can never find what I need, and not much fits. This is also why I use mostly thrift stores or online stores. But it sucks when you need something that won’t ship in time, I’m just lucky I haven’t needed specific clothes on short notice.

My partner has needed a couple of good t-shirts since his are either threadbare or shrunk, and you would think this is an easy request. Even the online stores only had things with a terrible fit and bad fabric.

For me, I just get an additional urgency, like, if they block these things more and more I may as well download as much as I can while I still can. As a side effect I’m also passively seeding more.

I honestly wish we had a steam controller that was more like the deck. I could never really get used to the Steam controller while I love using the deck. Can't really put my finger on what it is about it though.

The website also put me off, I only kept at it because my partner was already using it and it looked solid enough. I even asked "Are you sure this is the logseq? It looks so…idk Marketing?"

But so far I just seem to use it a lot, and the more I use it the more useful I find it, especially after learning how to add tags (didn't seem particularly obvious in the docs), and after finally getting into the flow of using Syncthing.

Logseq is the only note taking system that has clicked with me, by lowering the mental overhead at the time of adding notes. I just throw it in there without any considerations while still feeling like it's not going to get lost. Later I may revisit the day's journal and add tags or connect other information, move a block into its own page, etc.

I understand, while I live in Sweden, I didn't grow up here. I wish I could convince people back in my home country that reducing cars is a worthwhile goal, and certainly better people than me have tried. I'm not arguing for you to simply bike and take the risks, I didn't and I wouldn't.

Reducing car reliance would be a big project even if everyone agreed. I don't take it for granted here. Even in Sweden we're also facing risks of reduced public transportation and favoring cars, and that worries me. It's like finding a little piece of a well working system and watching it become underappreciated and potentially destroyed.

'Foreigners' to where? The US?

I don't use WhatsApp at all, but it irks me when 'foreigner' is used on the internet as if 'we' are all in a single country.

You're a foreigner to me.

When I bike here (Somewhere in Sweden) I barely ever have to interact with any cars because the car roads and bike lanes are entirely separate.

In the middle of the city you could make a case about lanes with pedestrians and bike lanes that often are only separated by a painted line.

The crossings have separate buttons for pedestrians and bikes. Traffic is very rarely ambiguous, at least in urban areas. It's easy to bike "the right way".

There are rules for biking, and some assholes break them, but that goes for everything.

Basically, I agree with the other commenter. Infrastructure is the answer.

As someone who has the option to go full remote but does not do well with it, I’d be happy to at least get extra stuff covered. My public transportation is not cheap, and the food situation is a mess.

Jepp, for me it is barely a convenience so I don’t even have an amazon account. I’m not American; seems like it’s pretty important for a lot of people over there, unfortunately.

So this applies to those like me and others, if you can, stop using it. But I also believe these kind of boycotts don’t make much of a dent without some serious organization.