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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • It varies per country. If you would go to the Netherlands, you’d still need health insurance. You can only get it if you are a Dutch citizen in some way. The costs of this are about 180/month. Plus you have what we call your own risk. If you need healthcare you pay 385 maximum yourself. If you can’t pay that, there are installment plans. And if the 180 a month is too steep for you, there is support from the Belastingdienst (IRS) that is dependent on your income.

    So example: if you need an operation that is covered in basic Dutch health insurance and you would live here for a year on work visum, you might pay 2400 a year in insurance costs and 385 own risk, totaling to 2785. If the operation would cost more than that in the US, you’re in luck.

    This is all provided you can get health insurance in the Netherlands.

    In the Netherlands, as a Dutch citizen, health insurance is mandatory.



  • There’s loads of things in tv shows that just skip the boring, logistical parts. Nobody wants to see a bookkeeper painstakingly taking leaflets and bets in orderly fashion.

    Besides, if there’s no record whatsoever, what’s to stop a bookie from taking money from the losers, and telling the winners ‘prove it’? Besides a knuckle sandwich, that is.

    Another one is basically any desk job, but particularly IT jobs in TV and movies. Even the most elite hackers don’t just insert a thumb drive in a laptop, hammer the keyboard and yell ‘I’m in’. Mr. Robot is the only show so far where hacking is portrayed somewhat believable, and it’s still mostly social engineering.

    As for programming, the only show I’ve ever seen who do a realistic way of describing VC funding and agile project development is Silicon Valley, but even there you’ll find the most boring things are just omitted.

    Point is, it’s just difficult to make administrative tasks interesting enough to keep the attention of viewers.



  • I don’t have an answer to your question, sorry. But as I was reading your story I just recognized so many different things. When I was about your age I was about to finish college but I was also just hitting the weed every day as soon as my schedule cleared up for it. Blissful moments would be spent with my closest friends, having beers until early morning and smoking a lot, playing video games, doing my music production…

    Now I do my corpo job from home every day and my free time is spent trying to get rid of the unrest of doing nothing. So I try to surpress that by watching screens or doing housework so that I at least feel like I accomplished something.

    I’ve been sidelined from work for a while to see if I could work on myself and that’s what I do now. Medication is very much a last ditch effort for me and I’m not there yet.

    But I find my most enjoyable moments in life are ‘gezelligheid’, a Dutch word that exists in no other main language which just means having a nice time with your favorite people and just enjoying moments together. In my case, a big part of it is drinking fancy beers and nice wine and eating good food. I can feel my body is telling me to make healthier choices but it is completely contrary to me living a happy life.

    As far as idle time goes, my therapist today advised to acknowledge the unrest and just notice it being there without adding any judgment, so in a way de-fusing yourself from your emotions in such a moment. I’m half excited to try it if I need it but I’m also a little skeptical because mindfulness has never really done much for me.

    I think it’s important to find out why you feel awful in these moments.

    But I feel your pain. All my earlier hobbies just feel empty and shallow. Somehow I crave new contacts, new people in my life. But I don’t really dare to go out into the world to find them. I’ve joined a tennis club and a political party, just to see what I can get from it. But I’m in no rush, I will take it as it comes.

    And for your reference, I am also happy with my girl and our three cats. I think we have a lot in common!