I haven’t been able to exercise successfully since I moved from home.

Where my parents live there was a great 5km run which included hills, scenery and if you did it backwards it was more strenous. They sadly exploited the fuck out of it and built a railway across it.

Where I live now it’s boring, hard to get to or too slopey.

Put lunch and meds with a cup of water in the fridge in a bag the night before. Set a reminder to bring the bag. Make your breakfast the night before.

Prepare her clothes the night before. If you are a morning shower person take the shower the night before. Same with her.

Just because she wakes up doesn't mean that you have to unless it's a safety issue. Get up, change her nappy and then back to bed. She will learn to sleep through the night.

Use this extra time to get yourself set. Take another 30min. Eat breakfast, get your meds etc.

Get a play area where she can play safely while you do whatever you need to do.

A very dear friend of mine, which unfortunately is a bit sheltered, couldn’t really understand how I can’t focus. “I also have to read a page several times to get the information to stick I don’t understand what you mean.”

And then I tried to explain that when I read a page my mind just thinks of other things and after several pages I realise that from like the 3rd sentence I have been thinking about other things. So I try to read them again and again and again. And It’s not like I’m actually reading I just go through the motions of turning the pages of my economy book while my brain is doing the equivalent of taking the ring to mordor.

This friend didn’t really understand how people could be depressed either “I mean. Just don’t be sad all the time. That’s what I do.”

I thought “I’m always bored am I cured then?”

And my mind has always been like this even before social media.

If I read a book I hyperfixate on it and don’t put it down until I’m done which can be a whole 27 hours.

If I am talking with my partner or if I am trying to study my mind starts to wander thinking “Hmm. I wonder what we’ll fo for dinner tonight. Oh. But then we need the pan. I better clean the pan. Oh but these trash needs to be taken out but I don’t want to do that now I’ll just chill a bit. Oh were you talking to me?”

Existing is hard sometimes and it’s not because I’m looking at reels two times per month.

That is more than “Hey come here”.

If it’s “hey come here (look at this for 5 seconds)” it’s a completely different thing that him getting his knickers in a bunch because you’re not following his narrative when you’re taking care of the household.

The way you described it was more of him seeing something on the pc and asking you to come look or him asking you to come over and help him temporarily with something.

Not disregard household chores so that you can play his game in the middle of the night.

I would say it’s two different things completely.

I am sorry that I misunderstood the situation. I would also tell him to man the fuck up or there will be consequences. And the consequences would be you not doing his part of the dishes or his psrt of the laundry so that he will have to pick up the slack or however the hell you want to retaliate. Unacceptable. You deserve someone who appreciates you for whonyou are and what you do.

She still has the right to say “no”.

Why wouldn’t you want to see the stuff that the person you like wants to show you? If you don’t want to go why don’t you just say “no”? Your partner isn’t a villain for wanting to show you stuff. They either wants to make your day a bit better, share something they like with you or they might need help with something.

Because I really don’t get why you have to be anxious about “going over there”.

How is it obnoxious to say “hey. Come here”?

I think you alone might need some counseling. Because that is not healthy. Just enjoy the fact that your partner invests time, thought and energy in you by showing you stuff.