I don’t put in effort to the extent that it bothers me about it. If it’s convenient sure. If not oh well next time.
One of our friends used to get all bent out of shape because she would prepare all of this food for a party and no one would eat it. I was like girl, stop preparing food then if it’s making you upset. If people get hungry we’ll order pizza.
Sometimes the things you think people will be into are not the things people want to do.
Scale back. Neuroboring people don’t put as much effort into coworkers and social connections as much as I think ADHD brains do because I don’t think they think about it that hard. I learned this when I invited coworkers to my wedding and 2 showed up for like an hour - and I’m pretty sure one of them dragged the other.
People with kids are super flaky too.
I’m just saying yeah you aren’t the priority to these people. Find people who will make you the priority. Keep looking. These connections happen slowly and change over time.
This happens with people too. If you don’t get an urn they’re in a bag inside a box.