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  • I’m sorry for your loss. I can sympathize with you because I lost one of my best friends years ago.

    From the years of counseling I’ve participated in, I’ve learned that people experience grief in different ways. There really isn’t a better or right sequence to experience the loss of someone. You’ll go through it as you see the need to or feel.

    There are 5 Stages of Grief (though some believe that there are a total of 7.)

    Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance are the most common. Again, these don’t have to happen in this sequence. You might experience that you jump around as time goes on, and that’s perfectly normal.

    Now talking about how your possible untreated ADHD symptoms might be negatively affecting you. I have been officially diagnosed with ADHD and have experienced the loss of a best friend to suicide. One of the perks of having a ADHD brain, is that you can think about a large number of things in a given moment. But this can make you feel totally stuck and overwhelmed if you’re going through grief. The best things to do I found during my experience and some advice from trusted people, was to allow for myself to spend time to process what had happened. It’s important to reach out to others to talk about how you feel or how you’re doing. Remember that you’re not alone in experiencing grief of the death of a friend. Reach out to someone that you can trust that is going through the same event as you. This can help you feel like you’re not alone in your experience of grief, struggle(s), loneliness, etc.

    It helped me very much to talk to a counselor that I knew and could feel comfortable sharing these deeper feelings and events with. If you can’t find a counselor, seek out someone close to you that would be willing and able to listen, support you and suggest options to help you through the process of going through grief.

    Feel free to message me if you have a need to talk. I don’t mind talking about the harder things in life most often. And last but not least… This Too Shall Pass.
















  • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPtoADHD@lemmy.worldWhat's your job?
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    1 month ago

    Also, they needed someone nerdy enough to run their scheduling software, but not nerdy enough to expect an IT professional’s wage. 😂

    LOL. Sounds like you were a great fit for the job and team.

    I’m always surprised when I hear about/from people who were able to stick it out at a job for over 10 years. It’s a weakness of mine, that I can’t seem to stick with a job for more than 8 months. All sorts of things make it difficult to stick around for me. Depression tends to be the downfall of the job for me. I’ve been able to find a great blend of anti-depressants and minor anti-anxiety meds that work for me. Took me years to get here though. But not to make it about me, there’s room for improvements and I’ve had some over the years. Still going at it. Slow and steady I guess.

    So what aspects of your job position do you like the most?


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    Oh man, that’s a wide variety of things to make. That’s cool.

    I used to work in a shop with CNC machinists. I remember asking one of them one day what they liked about it. And I got an interesting reply from one of them. He said, “I like how I can make just about everything you would ever need. I just need the raw materials, my machine, and a few tools to measure. And a trusty hammer for when you need to… encourage something.”

    I think it was the dude next to him, who made the point that there are so many different metal pieces that you don’t realize are around you when you walk into a building in general. All of them had to be made somehow and a lot of them are small or tiny pieces of components for something larger.

    That really opened my eyes to the world around me. I started to look at things differently from then on.

    So hats off to all of the machinists out there. We sure as hell couldn’t have the world like we do without you.


  • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPtoADHD@lemmy.worldWhat's your job?
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    Wow, this sounds rad as a job and career.

    How much has the tech in your field changed since you started?

    Also, would you mind giving an example of what kind of R&D you do? Like where is the industry needing to head towards and what kind of things are you working towards.