In my head it does not exist. Never trust myself to remember anything, write everything down in a system you trust (TickTick for me). In the same vein when leaving tasks halfway I write myself what I had planned to do next and all the details I can quickly jot down, even if they seem obvious or like I won’t forget them.

To add to the splitting thing, it says very specifically in my elvanse panphlet that you shouldn’t split it. Even if it didn’t I would be very difficult to split such a tiny dose of powder accurately, and getting a consistent dose everyday is important.

I take the same dose as you, and like you I felt it was a bit much on the first few days. Your body takes some time getting used to them, after two weeks 30 didn’t feel like too much anymore. It feels just right, it raises my heartbeat a bit 2 hours after I take it, and a bit later it evens out.

I see so many jokes like this, but I’m the exact opposite. For semi formal things like contacting service providers, taxes, sales and the like I prefer to wait for 30 minutes on a phone call to writing a 5 minute email.

I get really paralized in writing something that doesn’t sound casual, so I prefer to have a phone call where it’s not expected that I’ll speak as formally as the email I’d have to send to get the same task done.

One important thing to note here is that in my native language casual and formal written language have a bigger difference compared to English.

I read the abstract and I can’t understand if medicated ADHD adults don’t show the increase the unmedicated ones did or if the medication did not make a difference (increase or decrease) compared with unmedicated adults.

So are medicated ADHDers statistically similar to unmedicated ADHDers or non ADHDers?

I use ticktick for medium and long term stuff like

• monthly payments I can’t automate
• maintenance tasks (clean filters, check car)
• fill in taxes

I like its natural language input, it’s easy enough to just remember something and type it in and get back into what I was doing.

For short term stuff I use my smartwatch and voice assistents reminders. It leaves my wrist for charging and not much else. (I use Bixby because it integrates well with a Samsung phone, has persistent annoying reminders that don’t go away. Also Google can’t keep their shit straight and just keep a system for two years without killing it). Some examples of that I use my smartwatch for:

• do laundry in a few days when I just saw its going to be sunny
• timers for the oven or laundry
• take non routine medications

I keep a notebook at my desk for brain dumps and generally as a working memory replacement. I bullet journal on and off every few months, I like it when I’m using it, but as soon as something disrupts my routine it’s gone.

• Never just wait in the kitchen. When something is boiling/cooking/idle use that time to clean.

  I’m going to preface this one by saying I have a messy kitchen most of the time. We just take plates there and leave them on the counter. feeding ourselves is hard enough without having to cleanup right after. Then there is some cooking task that requires a but of idle time, I use that time to clean while I wait. This has two advantages: it makes waiting easier (before I did this I regularly undercooked food), and it makes me not leave the kitchen while the stove is on. That is a big no no for me.

• Modify instant meals

  When feeding myself is hard, I like to modify instant/freezer meals. I always have shelf stable meals ready and a few plans to easily add to them. I find that most of them are a bit lacking in the protein department, so I have some easy ways to add some meat to them (canned sausages, tunna, cheese, peas).

• Having a smartwatch with a voice assistant is a godsend

  I bought a used galaxy watch 4 and I love it. I set timers and reminders on it all the time, the only time it’s not on my wrist is when it’s charging. I set timers for the oven, for the washing machine, and in general for something I need to get back to after some time. I set more descriptive reminders to a bunch of things. It finds my phone when I loose it, and it also helped me track my heart rate once I started medication

Thanks for the reply, it hasn’t fully clicked yet, but I’ll get there once I think about it some more.

Happy to help! Now what I don’t get under this knowledge is double and triple rainbows. If anyone can explain that to me I would be very grateful.

You’re almost there. It has to do with the angle of the sun and the water drops relating to the view point. Rainbows only show when the sun is behind you, and if you imagine a cone going out from the viewpoint outwards you get the possible paths of the rainbow (different radius different wavelength and therefore color)

A similar concept happens in certain reflective surfaces (metal pots and pans, car hoods and much more). You always see the tiny scratches in circles, but if you alter the angle in any way you keep seeing different scratch circles. This is because the circle you see in any given angle is the exactly the scratches that are turned just perfectly to reflect the light in the perfect way. It does not mean that the scratches you see at any given moment are the only ones. It means there are plenty, and only a few more visible at a time.

To me, playing around with the second concept (much easier to manipulate yourself and see) made me understand rainbows much better.

The way I’ve explained it before is that it’s like the autocomplete on your phone. Your phone doesn’t know what you’re going to write, but it can predict that after word A, it is likelly word B will appear, so it suggests it. LLMs are just the same as that, but much more powerful and trained on the writing of thousands of people. The LLM predicts that after prompt X the most likelly set of characters to follow it is set Y. No comprehension required, just prediction based on previous data.

I don’t think “A watched pot never boils” was ever meant to be taken literally. The way I see it its more in the sense that if you just stand there looking at it the time it takes to boil will feel like forever.

I’m not much for siting sideways, more for putting my knees up and my feet on the seat, whitch I can luckily get away with without it showing on camera

I work full remote, so I can’t give you options for in office specific stuff. For myself I always have a notebook and post it notes to replace short term memory. Also, silent fidget toys help me sit though meetings.

Working from home itself helps me work because I can control the environment around me to have less distractions. Also I can get up and sit weird and fidget in my seat without fear of getting called out or judged for it.

To me waiting mode is caused by not trusting myself to not loose track of time if I start doing something else. So I count back the time it will take me to be ready and in the right location and put a bunch of reminders/alarms.

For example, I need to be at the dentist at 4pm. I check Google maps on the time estimate for me to get there (I even put in the arrive time to account for traffic), then I add the time for me to be ready to leave, to park my car, to be there early, adding a bit of a buffer on every step. Then depending on what I want to do before the dentist I put in alarms. If I can stop any time I put an alarm for the time I need to get ready. If I need a bit of a buffer to finish something I put one half an hour early and one at the time to get ready.

Adding some extra times to the estimate is good because we are notoriously bad at estimating times. You get better the more you do it

Quick disclaimer, I don’t have a tidy house at all, and I get lots of help to keep it livable.

With that said, one thing that helped me be better is to just embrace the randomness and half finished tasks.

When moving from the living room to the kitchen I look around for stuff that belongs in the kitchen and take what I can carry. Once in the kitchen I just set it down and do what I meant to do in the kitchen (if I remember what it was!).

During idle times in the kitchen (waiting for the microwave, water to boil, stuff to cook) I start putting away the stuff that is there already. I can stop whenever I’m done with the main task, but at least some progress is made.

When going back to the living room I take stuff from the kitchen that belongs there if I can carry it.

Just a few examples, I know it doesn’t work with every household task, I use podcasts and my husband for the tasks that don’t fit into this.

I agree, hence the disclaimer. Although there’s one ADHD lesson from that book that I liked: ADHD people struggle with the way the modern world work and school are structured, but if put in the right environment we thrive.

We can’t fight mithology monsters like Percy does, but I think if we find the right environment to live and work in our ADHD will me more an advantage than an hindrance. Easier said than done, of course, I’m lucky enough to find a work that I love.

Percy Jackson is written as having ADHD, because the writer’s son had it. I liked it, but maybe the “it’s actually a super power” thing might rub some people the wrong way.

In my eyes that distingueshes a “normal” friendship and a life partner is the planning for the future and being a team. You make big life decisions (moving house, career changes, medical decisions) together thinking of the best outcomes for both as a team. You could be a life partner with a non romantic totally platonic friend, but that’s usually not the case you see represented.

There’s been plenty good shows since X files came out, maybe it’s more of a problem that you’re in a different head space than you were and not as open to like new shows anymore. Happens to me with video games, I keep going back to the ones I played in my early twenties when I had more time over the summer to invest into games. Now I have much less time to start a new game and get over the boring introductory bits before getting to the good parts.

Thank you for your kind words of understanding. I think gatekeeping acts of kindness will result in less people doing them. Even if the person I gave the fruit to doesn’t like it or can’t eat it for some reason it’s still kindness from a stranger and being treated respectfully for a change. It’s still better than the people who just ignore them and walk away.