May I just also add the underdiagnosis of women, too.

I think they just don’t know. People are oversaturated and oversaturated and overloaded, and suffering for scraps, nobody has time, mental space or money to be choosy. Researching companies, suspiciously doesn’t show results. Finding that information isn’t easy, by design. It might be released, on the same day something else happens. But mostly people aren’t watching the news to the depth required to soak that stuff in, and don’t have the extra energy to soak anything in. Everything sent into our hands and eyes as news is controlled by a few with vested inrests. It would be lovely if there was a place that collected atrocities and kept them fresh. Who stopped buying nestle after all the horrible things they’ve done. I can bet you have supported a company with your dollar, that’s responsible for huge atrocities, it’s almost impossible to avoid. Look at the stuff happening in the Congo atm, all the top brands, committing atrocities for new phones to be built. How much have we heard about all of that? There’s so much. Where do you start. Funny story, I watched resident evil with my kid, just recently, and it was terrifying for whole new reasons. A top company who owns everything, goes into weapon manufacturing and creating advanced bio weapons, accidentally releases it, then doubles down continuously, shutting thousands in to die, and firing into crouds to cover up what it did. And that doesn’t seem far fetched, any more. All for the ever expansion of money, something that has a finite amount set. Literally the only way to achieve ever expansion is to commit atrocities, there’s a point where you take too much and the only option is atrocities to make more. And that’s capitalism, baby!!

Yeah! She didn’t get very far with it. They kept running her around in circles. If we’re talking about the same one… I mean that’s probably gotta happen a lot, really.

Your true enemy is capitalism, tho. Don’t shoot the messenger.

Isn't it going to be more likely the men who taught him to hate women than women? That's kinda incel thinking that the women caused it / deserve it, somehow. Incel is a cult, it's fed by a lot of stuff online. It's my take that extremely unbalanced overblown ego + not getting what they want = hate the things that don't just give them what hey want, rather than be capable of self reflection. And the whole upbringing of men is socially oppressed by toxic masculinity to "be the best" (= toxic ego / never question the self), because if they are "the best" it's others that are wrong, it can't be them, and they can't handle the cognitive dissonance of having any faults (aka being human) which would equate them to being not "the best". So by their maths, the equation is "actually it's everyone else that's the problem and if I have to twist logic, reason and reality while crating crazy conspiracy theories, rather than self reflect, I will"

How connected are you with your own emotions and emotional needs? How do you go filling your own emotional needs in healthy ways? First and foremost you have to start there. Reconnect with your emotions, sit with them, every day, and just really listen to them. You don’t have to do what they say, but they’re an important form of communication from your instincts and human needs, to you and for you. Your emotions are for you.

Emotions are kinda like, when you put your hand in the shower before you get in, to test the heat, imagine ignoring that, wouldn’t go well. Emotions come up to tell you something about your environment and what you need from that environment.

Sometimes your emotions just need reassurance. If you’re in the practice of ignoring your emotions, they get loud, and eventually fester, so it’s important to listen to them, validate them, acknowledge them, and then they usually move on, that’s all emotions want. if it’s an inconvenient emotion for your situation, acknowledge it, notice it without judgement, remind yourself that you are not your emotions, you are the entity observing your emotions, and that one doesn’t serve you right now, thank it and let it go.

Connecting with your own emotions in a healthy way and sharing them, is part of emotionally connecting with others.

The other part is connecting with their emotions and caring for those. Make space for people to have emotions, all of them, be curious about people’s emotions, ask questions, validation their experience (because all emotions are valid, regardless if they’re showing up at what is considered by some as the “right time”)

When someone is talking about their emotions they may want you to validate and acknowledge, sometimes people fall into the trap of trying to “fix” the issue associated with the emotion or situation causing the emotion, but actual emotional connection is validating and acknowledges that emotional response and making space for it to exist.

Imagine the emotions people are feeling are like a huge meal they’ve painstakingly cooked and put all their effort into. If someone came along and said it was bad or threw it straight in the bin, that would be really dejecting. Take time to work through each piece of emotion that crop up in a situation, for people around you, and the effort and energy that comes along with each step, like you would ask how they make each part of the dish, break it down to beginning to now, in process. You don’t want to just sweep it off the table. When did the emotion start, go back to then, and then relate, you can understand feeling like that, and it’s understandable for anyone and just leave space for them to talk. People are kinda using others to emotionally regulate, so letting them know their emotions are welcome and safe to express and validating them, makes them see you as a safe person.

It all starts with connecting with your own emotions, so practice makes perfect, keep at it!