My girlfriend has a 15 year old daughter (I’m 49). I enjoy her company a lot. She’s a great kid. The thought of any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with her turns my stomach. It should also turn your dad’s stomach, and he shouldn’t be allowed to get away with “I enjoy her company”. But that’s just my opinion. I don’t know your family dynamics, and I know it’s easy to preach about what I think should be done from the outside.

Very tough spot to be in, and I have no advice beyond confrontation. I’m sorry you have to deal with this.

I can’t tell you why her parents would be okay with it, but I think you might want to ask your dad why he’s okay with it. A tough conversation, for sure, and I think we all kinda know the answer, but making him say it out loud might begin the process to put an end to it.

I think it makes a difference if it’s done in a designated area where you have permission, like a University or church. There’s an old man in Tampa who has been arrested a bunch of times because he hands out sandwiches, but he just goes around the street doing it.

There’s a park in my town where homeless people tend to gather because it’s one of the few places with benches and shade. My friends and I threw a cookout at the park and went around inviting everyone in and near the park to join us. We don’t have a huge homeless population here, but there were a dozen or so homeless folks that joined. Cops showed up and harassed us for a little while, but luckily a sergeant showed up and let them know that no laws were being broken. It also helps that I used to work for the Medical Examiner’s Office, so a lot of the cops know me from being on scenes together. It’s not exactly a “get out of jail free” card, but they do treat me with a little more respect than the average person gets.

I don’t know about the laws in other places, but here in Florida when you hand out food, the cops use the excuse of “food safety” to shut you down or even fine and arrest you. It’s all bullshit of course, but that’s their legal backing. But when you’re throwing a cookout, it’s food that you are eating, and just happen to be sharing with guests. There’s not a damn thing they can do about it.

People should have more cookouts in public parks, invite everyone, and make sure that includes people who are struggling. Then it’s just a party, and like you say, the guests situation otherwise is irrelevant.

Trump knew he wasn’t going to revitalize anything. The whole thing was a money laundering scam for him.