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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • We got a folding cargo bike because we have zero indoor storage space and needed something that would fit in one of these because it’s all the available space we have in our small city backyard.

    Do I wish I had a garage and room for a “real” cargo bike that didn’t fold? Sure, but the one I have works great for what I need it for and it does have some pretty awesome side benefits.

    • We can fit the bike in the car and take it on vacation with us.
    • It fits in an elevator or on a train in a pinch.
    • Because the handlebars fold down and sideways and the pedals fold in you can push the bike through super narrow alleys and gaps that a normal bike wouldn’t fit through.

    I’d love to own an urban arrow or some other epic long tail cargo bike but the folding aspect has allowed me to own a bike I otherwise wouldn’t have any proper storage for. So for me it’s a no-brainer.





  • Advantages of bras:

    • Look nice (if you’re into that look, which many people are)

    • Keep your nipples from chafing

    • Support/containment for larger boobs

    • Keep prudish people from being mad at your nipples

    • Can be worn without a shirt for sports if they cover enough real estate

    • When breastfeeding, help catch/absorb leaks

    Disadvantages of bras:

    • Uncomfortable if not fitted right
    • Sweaty as fuck on hot days
    • Expensive
    • Many have to be hand washed if they are fancy

    I would say I wear bras about 30-50% of the time and it’s usually for either support/chafing prevention or looks. The rest of the time I can’t be bothered. I’m also lucky to not have super large breasts. I know women who do may find a good fitted bra to be more comfortable than no bra.

    When I was breastfeeding I wore them all the time though because it is super awkward to leak through your shirt in public.

    Edited to add bullet points bc I suck at lemmy formatting


  • Cucumbers need a lot of direct sun and a lot of space, either vertical (trellised) or horizontal (along the ground). Put them in a wide open sunny part of your yard. They’re also fairly susceptible to powdery mildew so keep an eye on them if the weather is rainy.

    You mentioned you’re in Maine, which means you have a relatively short growing season. You might want to start your cucumber seeds inside to get a jump start on the season in the spring. Otherwise just make sure you get them started right away once it’s okay to plant outdoors so that you don’t run out of room at the end of the season.

    Good luck and let us know how it goes! Cucumbers are a very rewarding plant, right up there with tomatoes for me as far as bang for your buck. Homegrown cucumbers have a crunch that totally knocks store bought ones out of the park.

    Other vegetables I like growing that grow well in my corner of New England: Basil (grow enough to make several batches of pesto and freeze it) Tomatoes Sugar snap peas Leafy greens, especially collards and Swiss Chard Potatoes in 5-gallon buckets Hot peppers



  • Cisgender woman here, I just wanted to add that if my husband were to come out as trans, that would not be a tragedy or something I wished he’d gotten figured out sooner for my sake. In this hypothetical scenario, if it somehow managed to make us incompatible as married partners we’d deal with it but people have gotten divorced for much worse reasons before. The worst part for me would be worrying if he’d been miserable during our marriage, because I love him and would hate for that to be his experience of our time together.

    It’s really hard to imagine because AFAIK we’re both cis but personally I’d probably prefer to stay married to my spouse even if he changed his gender identity. I mean he’s still the same person I married and we still love the same things and have a wonderful life and child together. I dunno, maybe it wouldn’t work out in the end but I sure as hell wouldn’t be mad at him for something he couldn’t change.

    Anyways, my point is you don’t have to assume that your relationships with cis people will all get blown up if you do happen to be trans. I appreciate the urge to have your ducks all in a row before embarking on significant life events but the truth is that marriage and adulthood is super messy anyways. If you marry someone and have a kid with them the odds are good you will have all sorts of chaotic events to deal with- physical illnesses, mental illnesses, kid stress or illness, weight gain or loss, money trouble, job changes, changes in personality with age, the list goes on and on. The trick to being happily married is rolling with the changes, working hard at your partnership, and being committed to your partner, not having it all perfectly lined up at the start.





  • Get an ebike. It solves several of your cons at once.

    No need to wear spandex or neon to ride on an ebike (or any bike honestly I bike everywhere and the only neon thing I own is my rain pants) just put lights on your bike and don’t dress all in black.

    Can’t help you with the helmet, that one’s pretty important but there’s lots of nice looking helmets out there.

    No getting sweaty on an ebike unless you want to, because you can crank the pedal assist if you’re starting to sweat.

    Have literally never had an issue finding somewhere to park my bike. Sure have an issue finding car parking though. At the downtown garage I park at, cars are $20 an hour but bikes are free.

    You’ll probably go faster than the cars if there’s lots of traffic. We’ve done a car vs bike race a few times when we had both starting the same place and going to the same place and the ebike always wins or is like 10 minutes behind at most.

    Bluetooth speakers and transparent headphones both solve the music issue.

    Many ebikes have extra cargo capacity, so grocery runs are easier. If you’ve got a large family then you might need a cargo bike or to rent a car periodically for large trips.

    The only real downside imo is the weather if you live somewhere extremely cold/hot and the safety from riding near cars. The rest is easy to get over once you’re zipping down the road at 20mph getting those sweet, sweet biking endorphins.


  • Your post is probably going to get very different reactions depending on what country people are from, since bicycle infrastructure varies.

    In the US a “cycle path” would probably refer to a multi-use path. Dogs are allowed on most multi-use paths in the US. On a multi-use path with cyclists and pedestrians, cyclists must yield to pedestrians. I assume that means their (leashed) dogs as well.

    Now, dog owners who walk their dogs off-leash on a multi-use path with bikes and clearly posted leash requirements? They can go fuck allll the way off. Because the last thing I need in my day is a fucking terrier throwing itself in front of my bike wheel.

    In Europe and other places I’d guess that “cycle path” might mean a bike lane that is painted on the sidewalk where bikes have priority? If that’s what you’re talking about then I agree dog owners should not be walking their dogs in what amounts to a traffic lane, but there’s also not much you can do about it other than sound your bell/horn or steer around.

    Shitty dog owners are shitty. Not much to be done except yell at them to be less careless of their dog’s and other people’s safety. And on the other hand, don’t be a shitty cyclist and bully pedestrians if they have the right of way.



  • Calendula, bachelor’s buttons, and strawflower are all sprouted and looking healthy! For food plants, I’ve only started greens so far (collard and tatsoi). Soon it’ll be time to plant peas outside though and I’m stoked! Also got some potatoes chitting on the windowsill to plant in buckets. Those did really well last year.

    Also we have one super collard who overwintered from last year and I’m excited to see what it does.

    I’m apprehensive about the bunnies this year but more prepared to do battle. Last year they mowed most of my new plants down to the ground until I put little fences up. This year I’m gonna start with the fences from the get-go and see if I can get more plants past the tender chompable stage and into maturity. The only problem is I tried winter sowing a bunch of natives this year so I’ll need to notice when and where they come up and get defenses around them.

    Apprehensions aside, though, I’m glad it’s spring! Bring on the gardening fun.


  • AFAIK, micro greens are just regular greens that you plant really close together and then harvest before they get mature.

    Please someone correct me if this isn’t technically microgreens but what I’ve done in the past to get mini salad greens is you just get one of those larger seedlings trays (or you can use old milk cartons cut in half), put some soil in it, and plant seeds in really dense rows (like >10 seeds an inch). Then you just harvest them when they get to be an inch tall or something similar. I just use regular collard, kale, mustard, and lettuce seeds from the garden shop.

    You can also grow stuff from the grocery store. One of my favorites to grow is pea shoots. You literally buy a bag of dried peas from the grocery store and plant them like I described above. Then harvest them when they get about 3-4 inches tall. They go great in spring salads. Mung beans are another grocery store staple that I love sprouting on my own instead of buying the sprouts.

    Not sure what your kit looks like but you can definitely grow micro greens in potting soil as well if you run out of whatever the kit has! Just make sure you’re keeping an eye on moisture so they don’t stay too wet or get too dry. Because micro greens are basically seedlings, you don’t actually need to fertilize them at all and they can actually grow in pretty spare soil.