That makes a lot of sense and where I’m leaning towards as well

While my homeserver still has plenty of resources to spare, I see a lot of them going towards multiple DB containers. It’s nice for “segregating” the containers, but backups are also a pain, gotta plan backups/restores for multiple DBs

Same story with an s3 (well, minio) instance running. Seems like it would make more sense to centralize DB and file operations and having different services talk to them. Then if I ever needed to move them into separate servers, it wouldn’t be as big a move.

Thanks!

This is purely anecdotal of course, but most of my (male) friends and family members who resist going to therapy aren’t really turned off because of access to a specific service tailored for them or not; they’re “turned off” from it largely because of the social perception of men going to therapy in general.

What I mean to say is, no, I don’t think we need more therapy “tailored” towards men, all (decent) therapists already specifically try to bend their particular therapy-ing style to match their client, regardless of gender. We need to change the perception of what it means to get therapy (at least in my opinion).

Immich for personal photos and pictures I take

Lychee as an image host for funny pictures, memes, and publically sharing photos

The edit: omg thank you for awards/upvotes comments just feel like such a self-congratulatory circlejerk, as if the point of the post was to “win” at reddit by getting the most points. The “meta” around reddit itself became less of a discussion and more a game to play to get the most points.

To be clear, I don’t directly hate the “thank you” post edits, I dislike that they’re a symptom of the “meta” of reddit becoming less around the links it aggregates and more around itself, maybe?

I remember being introduced to reddit years ago. It was still new and unknown, there was in-jokes and cringey bacon narwhal shit I don’t even quite remember. It was fun, it was cringe, it wasn’t doomscrolling it was genuine engagement and I really enjoyed it.

Then the longer I spent on it the more hostile it became. Almost every comment thread is full of contrarians looking to argue with you just to get more upvotes and edit: omg thx 4 awards!!11! bullshit, bots “correcting” people’s spelling and telling you how many consonants are in reverse alphabetical order in your username omg so cute! it just became regular, boring old social media.

Then the leadership bullshit kept just getting worse and worse and worse, every time you hear anything about what reddit (as a company) does it’s just more and more hostile to users. The API/app changes and the way it was handled was the last straw. Users don’t hate reddit, reddit hates it’s users, the company has shown nothing but contempt for the users and unpaid moderators for years and I’m just sick of it and that long term animosity coupled with the last set of changes? Yeah, fuck reddit.

I set up my own instance to mess around with (and what I’m posting from now). The other instances interact with mine just fine and by default. It is certainly possible they could explicitly blacklist your instance, but short of an admin of another instance personally taking umbrage with you I can’t see that happening.

For myself I have set my instance to be private (for me and some friends) and the other instances I “federate” with are done on a whitelist, although you can definitely open up to everything and instead deny specific instances with a blacklist.