Do you cave and use both hands? Do you take the chance and try to use them one-handed when more actively using them? Or do you ultimately submit and get an accessory to kinda help, at least with keeping a hold of them?
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a few other answers:
just use both hands, get an accessory, and/or balance on pinky and develop the toughest pinky imaginable
bonus:
find some smol phone you like and savor it for as long as it works
I run a PopSocket on my S22Ultra (no case) and keep a couple of these around:
PopSockets Flexible Phone Mount - Black https://a.co/d/0aYtsed
When bent correctly for different orientations it’s absolutely fantastic, and can make interacting with the S-Pen highly ergonomic. Adapt and overcome!