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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • I think part of it is maybe people change or are shocked by the realization of the immediate added responsibility, but also remember that you’re certainly not going to sleep as much, like ever again. Losing sleep regularly when you had so much control over your sleeping habits is really impactful to your mental state.

    My wife and I didn’t really get angry with each other or change our behavior towards each other, but we definitely were much more tired. At the same time though, you have this wonderful little person that you are shaping (that shits and eats ALL the time) - it’s a massive change of routine. People inherently don’t like change.

    I feel a lot of what you’re afraid of stems from this. Just ensure that you both go into it knowing you will need each other to support each other. Do it as a team, share the responsibilities, and truly enjoy those moments because they go by SO fucking fast.

    Treat it like a marathon and not a sprint. Compete with each other to be the first to apologize and diffuse the situation when things get heated. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be rewarding to share that part with your better half.

    I hope you figure out how to weather your storm! It’s an amazing thing to see them grow up and to be there every step of the way as a team.


  • This should be higher up. OP clearly learned a lesson here but one larger lesson most everyone can learn is that neodymium magnets aren’t the only kind of magnets. Especially when high temperature performance is needed. Samarium Cobalt magnets are much better suited for high temperature and corrosive applications. Plus if I remember correctly they’ve been around longer.

    Most neodymium loses it’s magnetism at 200-230C. Some Samarium Cobalt can retain their magnetic properties all the way up to 350C or higher grades up to 500C (1022F)

    I nerded out on this a few years ago when I made a magnetic thermal blanket for my pellet smoker and experienced the same thing. Samarium Cobalt did the trick in my application.



  • Prepare for the weather properly! Your friend should take care of most of the tough parts, but one thing you can do is understand what “the mountains” means in your area.

    For example, for me the mountains in Colorado get down below freezing still this time of year, so if I were camping I’d need to ensure I have a proper sleeping bag (temperature rated for the overnight temps you’ll be in up in the mountains) and pad to go under it (absolutely necessary for thermal reasons really any time you’re camping) plus clothes to wear overnight, such as thermal tops and bottoms and socks, even a hat/beanie if it’s cold enough. If you’ve never camped in cold weather, it can be intimidating, miserable, or even deadly if you’re unprepared. I absolutely love doing it (I use a hammock and not a tent, it’s a blast).

    However your friend may have most of this for you, so focus on your clothes, he should probably have advice on this topic as well.

    Enjoy your first time! It can be an incredible experience with the right company and planning. It’s always fun to connect with nature and disconnect from our everyday lives and technology.