I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?
I have friends who are Afghan who have had arranged marriages so this led me to be curious to ask, why does this practice still persist into the 21st century?
Others have already talked about the potential benefits of matchmaking, but not a lot of people have talked about marriage as a joining of families. There are lots of cultures where it’s normative to live together with parents and grandparents (which if you think about it also means aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.). There are lots of benefits to people who live this way - greater financial stability, access to childcare, healthcare, increased lifespan, lower depression - and so it makes sense. If you are bringing someone new into the household, it may be important for the heads of the household to weigh on or even choose the person or the family.
I understand in theory the benefits. But I practice for me It would be a nightmare. Being unable to get away from toxic family members would be horrible. And being the outsider… I’m dating you, not your family. I find the idea of “entering a new family” worrisome and distasteful.
I don’t know. There’s an even chance my parents would have been better at picking my husband than I was.
Eh. There’s a BIG difference between you making a questionable decision on your own and someone else forcing you into their questionable decision
You do know that arranged marriage and forced marriage are different things, right?
You do know the two overlap rather consistently from the context of the females’ choice in most cultures where it persists, right?
That doesn’t mean they should be conflated.
It means they are conflated, even if you don’t like that they are.
Only for people with an inability to comprehend rudimentary semantics.